Stepmother asks 17-year-old stepdaughter to be her maid of honor and to be “her” daughter, she refuses: ‘I’m not her daughter. She seemed totally blindsided by the fact I didn’t see myself as her daughter’ – FAIL Blog

There’s enthusiasm about new approaching possibilities, excitement over where things might lead… and then there’s pressure. While you might be eager to get started with a burgeoning relationship, there’s a chance the other party isn’t quite there yet. You see this all the time with romantic relationships—you know, “getting cold feet”—but it applies to any relationship. Come on too strong and you might just find that you send the other person running.

This new stepmother really wanted to build a close relationship with her daughter, and—well, she kind of sort of demanded it, putting way too much pressure on the girl way too quickly. She should know that it takes time, space, and understanding for a relationship to truly develop.

Maybe her intentions were good, but they just came off the wrong way. But it certainly seems like she’s more interested in manifesting herself into the “mother” of the girl than she is in actually being one. She might feel like her efforts are constantly being rebuked, but she needs to change the way she’s approaching the situation or just abandon her pursuit of “her” new daughter” entirely.